Saturday, September 26, 2015
- Wendy Zukerman
IMAGE: DR KERRI PARNELL RECOMMENDS SHOWING LOVE AND AFFECTION TO FRIENDS AND FAMILY RECENTLY DIAGNOSED WITH CANCER.(TINO SORIANO/ GETTY)
When someone in your life has been diagnosed with cancer it can be difficult to know what to say. Do you talk about your aunt's experience with the disease? Or distract them with a cat video? Dr Kerri Parnell, who's living with cancer, has a few surprising tips for the inevitably sad and potentially awkward conversation.
'Everyone is coming from a good place when they're talking to someone who's got cancer,' says Dr Kerri Parnell, a general practitioner based in Sydney. 'No one's trying to make someone feel uncomfortable.'
But sometimes, people just can't get it right. Amidst over-compensating, trying to be helpful and feeling nervous, friends and family can end up making everyone feel worse.
If there was some miraculous cure my oncologist would probably be the one to tell me about it, so maybe don’t suggest how I can cure myself.DR KERRI PARNELL
Parnell has had many such conversations. She was diagnosed with metastatic cancer in 2007. The cancer had spread from an undiagnosed tumour in her breast. Parnell underwent a mastectomy, chemotherapy and radiation. Eight years on, she is still battling with the disease. 'This has been a tricky year,' she says.
One of her oncologists described metastatic breast cancer as crossing a river with stepping stones, with each stone representing a different treatment.
'At some stage, you're probably going to run out of stepping stones,' she says. 'Hopefully, there are going to be more and more stones invented as time goes on.'
Here, Parnell gives a few tips on what people should—and should not say—to those diagnosed with cancer.
What not to say:
Don't mention your cancer story.If your mother-in-law or aunt was diagnosed with cancer, 'I don't really need to know,' says Parnell. 'It's simply not helpful... Even if it's a good story, I don't want to spend most of my time talking about cancer.'
Don't say 'How are you?'Obviously, it's fine to ask someone how they are. But if the answer is 'I'm fine', don't proceed to look someone in the eye, grab them by the arm and repeat the question: 'No, really, how are you?'According to Parnell, it's best to follow the person's lead. If they're not openly engaging in a discussion about their cancer, don't push. 'I think if people want to talk about it, they'll talk about it,' she says.
Don't say 'I'm really tired too'.When Parnell is asked how she's feeling, sometimes she might reply, 'Look, I'm a bit tired'. A common response? 'Yeah, I'm really tired too'. But, of course, it's not the same tired.'You're probably not on 17 pills a day, and you probably didn't wake up all night with hot flushes from the medication,' she says. 'They're trying to be empathic, but it's actually distancing.'
Don't recommend 'the carrot juice extract cure'. Or any miracle cures.'If there was some miraculous cure, my oncologist would probably be the one to tell me about it, so maybe don't suggest how I can cure myself,' says Parnell.
Don't say 'You must stay positive'.Parnell says here's no evidence that staying positive can cure cancer: 'It's a myth.' Meanwhile, telling someone to stay positive can make them feel guilty for not feeling upbeat while struggling with a disease.
What you should say:
Do say 'You're loved'.'We all want to be loved,' says Parnell. She recommends showing any expression of love and support to someone diagnosed with cancer. 'Anything that might decrease that distance, rather than increase it,' she says.
Do say 'Are you free for dinner?'Parnell says people with a chronic illness often want 'some distraction and discussion'.
Do say 'You are strong' (where appropriate).For Parnell, when people genuinely tell her that she's strong, it makes her feel that way.'Often when you've got cancer you don't feel strong, you feel vulnerable and fragile,' she says. 'Anything that makes you feel strong is one of the best feelings.'
The take-home message, says Parnell, is to follow your friend's lead. If they're not talking about cancer, then you probably shouldn't either.
18-tonne, $890,000 vehicle that looks ideal for people who like holidaying outdoors - in a warzone
- Massive camper van painted in military green and described by Austrian makers as a 'motorhome for global cruises'
- 'Action Mobil Global XRS 7200' costs holidaymakers £585,000 and comes complete with a 720-horsepower engine
- Interior features 23 sq ft of living space, satellite TV, a washer and dryer, and a lift at the back to carry a motorbike
Painted in military green, weighing in at 18-tonnes and fitted with a giant set of wheels, this supersized camper van would not look out of place in a warzone.
The massive vehicle, produced in Saalfelden am Steinernen Meer, Austria, has a 720-horsepower engine and comes with a £585,000 price tag.
But despite its tank-like appearance, the Action Mobil Global XRS 7200 - described as a 'motor home for global cruises' - is also built for comfort and comes with 23 sq ft of living space.
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Solid: The Austrian-made camper van is painted in military green, comes with a 720-horsepower engine and costs up to £585,000
Power: The camper van looks more like a military vehicle and is so big it can easily carry a motorbike on the back on a special platform
Spacious: The Action Mobil Global XRS 7200 - described as a 'motorhome for global cruises' - is also built for comfort and comes with 23 sq ft of living space
Built for comfort: Other amenities prospective owners will get for their money include a washer and dryer and satellite television
Some of the amenities prospective owners will get for their money include satellite television, a washer and dryer, and a lift at the back to carry a motorbike.1
The Austria-based firm offers a variety of two, three, and four-axle vehicles. The company's website says: 'This luxury all-wheel motorhome captivates by its clear-cut lines, optimum functionality for long stays in off-road terrain and exclusive, homely atmosphere – all this in a motorhome for globe cruises.'
Stephan Wirths, managing director of Action Mobil, said that the company have sold around 300 of the mammoth vehicles so far.
The massive vehicle, produced in Saalfelden am Steinernen Meer, Austria, has a 720-horsepower engine and comes with a £585,000 price tag
The company's website describes the vehicle as a 'luxury all-wheel motorhome' that specialises in 'long stays in off-road terrain' and comes with a 'homely atmosphere'
Fixtures and fittings: The Global XRS 7200 motorhome has 23 sq ft of living space and comes with a fitted out bathroom and toilet
Luxury: The vehicle is fitted out with kitchen amenties including a washer and dryer, oven and sink. The Austria-based firm offers a variety of two, three, and four-axle vehicles
But despite its giant size, the Global XRS 7200 is not the largest vehicle the company have ever sold.
The Desert Challenger - a specially-made model, which weighs 30 tonnes and offers five miles per gallon - was once sold for more than £1million.
Mr Wirths said: 'People always have a great reaction the first time they see it - I like every single feature on the Global XRS 7200.'
But despite its giant size, the Global XRS 7200 is not the largest vehicle the company have ever sold. The Desert Challenger - a specially-made model, which weighs 30 tonnes and offers five miles per gallon - was once sold for more than £1million
The vehicle, described as a 'motorhome for globe cruise' features comfortable chairs, a fully kitted-out kitchen and bedroom area
The camper van comes with a price tag almost three times the average British home with some models costing between £365,000 and £585,000
Read more: http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-3246096/Forget-camper-vans-meet-camper-TANK-18-tonne-585-000-vehicle-looks-ideal-people-like-holidaying-outdoors-warzone.html#ixzz3mqogNAfY
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Thursday, September 10, 2015
It didn't include the costs of having replicators, deflector arrays, phasers and not lasers, photon torpedoes, transporter, and most important was that it was quoted for a nuclear reactor and not matter-anti matter. haha. But good enough...
Wednesday, September 9, 2015
Sunday, September 6, 2015
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HERE ARE THREE WORDS TO DESCRIBE THE EIGHT PARTIES, COURTESY OF WATSON: