Tuesday, October 16, 2018

能打開任何人「心結」的一段話,值得細細品味…

1、過錯是暫時的遺憾,而錯過則是永遠的遺憾!不要害怕過錯而錯過。
2、寧可自己去原諒別人,莫讓別人原諒你。
3、世界原本就不是屬於你,因此你用不著拋棄,要拋棄的是一切的執著。萬物皆為我所用,但非我所屬。
4、你有你的生命觀,我有我的生命觀,我不干涉你。只要我能,我就感化你。如果不能,那我就認命。
5、如果你準備結婚的話,告訴你一句非常重要的哲學名言「你一定要忍耐包容對方的缺點,世界上沒有絕對幸福圓滿的婚姻,幸福只是來自於無限的容忍與尊重」。
6、我的財富並不是因為我擁有很多,而是我要求的很少。
7、不是某人使我煩惱,而是我拿某人的言行來煩惱自己。
8、活在別人的掌聲中,是經受不起考驗的人。
9、如果你能每天吶喊二十一遍「我用不著為這一點小事而煩惱」,你會發現,你心裡有一種不可思議的力量,試試看很管用。
10、若能一切隨他去,便是世間自在人。
11、感謝上蒼我所擁有的,感謝上蒼我所沒有的。
12、來是偶然的,走是必然的。所以你必須,隨緣不變,不變隨緣。
13、愚痴的人,一直想要別人了解他。有智慧的人,卻努力的了解自己。
14、說一句謊話,要編十句謊話來彌補,何苦呢?
15、根本不必回頭去看咒罵你的人是誰?如果有一條瘋狗咬你一口,難道你也要趴下去反咬他一口嗎?
16、狂妄的人有救,自卑的人沒有救。
17、你什麼時候放下,什麼時候就沒有煩惱。
18、人之所以痛苦,在於追求錯誤的東西。
19、與其說是別人讓你痛苦,不如說是自己的修養不夠。
20、命運負責洗牌,但是玩牌的是我們自己!

Eight forms of worldly suffering in samsara

“There are eight forms of worldly suffering in samsara. These eight forms of worldly suffering accompany us throughout our lives. The first four are natural phenomena. The other four may be remedied through spiritual cultivation but most of us are unable to overcome them because we live our lives deluded, fixated and biased.” ―I Ask The Buddha
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“娑婆有八大苦,这八大苦跟随我们一生。前 四大苦是‘自然法则’,后四大苦是能用修行来对治,可是凡夫却无法做到,因为我们活在妄想、执著、分别当中。”―《我问佛》


How to get noticed at work and boost your promotion potential: 10 tips

Here are 10 practical tips to improve your visibility at work and up your chances of your boss investing in your success.

Climbing the ladder in any company requires one thing: Visibility. But employees tend to buy into several myths about what it takes to get ahead, instead of looking to practical advice, Aimee Cardwell, vice president of engineering and consumer product development at American Express, said during a Wednesday session at the 2018 Grace Hopper Celebration in Houston.

These myths include the idea that if you do your job well, you will be "discovered" by upper management, Cardwell said. People also tend to falsely believe that their work will speak for itself, or that getting ahead is all about relationships, or all about what you deliver.

In reality, "doing your job is table stakes," Cardwell said. "What you need is to be seen doing what you do best."

Here are 10 tips for how to become more visible to your boss, and ultimately gain a promotion, according to Cardwell.

1. Be the messenger
Volunteer to be the person who announces your team's successes, because the messenger of good news also receives a halo of credit, Cardwell said: In your mind, you associate the person who send the email with good news with that good news, more than the people who are listed in the message below. However, it's key not to overdo this, and never to use it to announce your own successes, she added.

2. Speak up
You need to participate during meetings and events to become visible, Cardwell said. "When you speak up at meetings, and you really must, make sure what you say is concise, on point, and interesting," she added. "Be brief and bold. If you don't say anything during the meeting, no one will know that you're thinking smart things."

This doesn't mean overtake the meeting, she added, but realize that people are interested in your opinion, even if you are lower on the totem pole in your organization.

3. Make friends
This requires honing your small talk skills, Cardwell said. "The ability to engage strangers in conversations is one of the best ways to expand your network," she added. "You have to practice constantly to get better and grow."

One tactic for improving your small talk is when you meet someone, no matter what position they are in, treat them as if they are someone who your friend brought to your house for a dinner party, and focus on making them feel comfortable, Cardwell said. "Just relate as a person, and make them comfortable in the first few minutes of meeting," she added.

4. Sign up
Volunteer for extra credit projects that nobody else wants to take on, and then rock them, Cardwell said. That way, you're thought of as the person who is willing to take on a difficult or tedious task, and you may get to meet people who are outside of your usual department and add to your network.

5. Fix it
Take the initiative to fix the broken things in your company that people have just gotten used to. If you fail, people will continue to do things the same way, but if you succeed, you'll be a hero, Cardwell said.

6. Ask for feedback and advice
Ask for feedback and advice from people you admire, and accept that feedback graciously, Cardwell said. While feedback may be a more formal thing to ask for, you should end ever one-to-one meeting you have with anyone by asking, "Do you have any advice about this?"

"Try to be specific," Cardwell said. "If you can learn to take that feedback and advice graciously, people will see that you're listening to them. And it's also quite helpful, because other people see you in ways you can't perceive yourself."

7. Become a subject matter expert
Find other people in your company who need your expertise, and offer it freely and generously, Cardwell said. "Create a discussion channel around your interest, and invite others to discuss," she added. This may take the form of a Slack channel, for example.

8. Get help
Seek out a mentor, career sponsor, or advocate. Ask these people for 15 minutes of their time to ask about a specific question and learn more about opportunities in the company. "No one will tell you no," Cardwell said. "But if you never ask, you'll never get it."

9. Speak out
Speak externally at meetups, schools, and events, Cardwell said. Reach out to your corporate communications team and let them know you're available for these types of engagements. If you're not comfortable with speaking, start practicing, she added.

10. Observe
Watch the people in your organization who are well-known, and compare their different styles of approaching meetings and problems, Cardwell said. Watch to see if they approach things from a technical, factual, emotional, or other angle, and build a mental picture of that approach. The next time you're faced with a problem, you can try one of those approaches, and see how it fits you, she added.